My father died this year. He was not at home with computer technology and I'm sure he never knew what a 'blog' is, but I'd like to create a public memorial. So I append the script for his funeral, just as I wrote it for delivery in the funeral home on Friday, 9 August in Motueka.
Funeral Script
Thanks
A brief word of explanation is
probably required here. My father chose the music to be played at
his funeral. Jazz, of course. He neatly labelled the CDs with the
chosen tracks and gave me the title of another one, which I had to
track down on the Internet. That's the one we just heard:- I
Guess I'll Have to Change My Plan by Jack Teagarden and Bobby
Hackett.
Dad did not live in NZ for many years
and he doesn't have a large family so today's gathering is
unexpectedly well attended. Elizabeth, Richard and I are very
grateful to the support from our spouses and from so many friends.
Thank you all for being here.
Dad's only other descendant, my
brother Nigel, is here with us in spirit. He, and the wider Heritage
clan, are in the UK. Nigel is organising a memorial gathering there
for next month. By the magic of digital recording and the Internet
he is also here in audio and will speak later.
Dad was a convinced atheist. A
religious ceremony would be quite inappropriate and we are not going
to have one. There will be no priest, hymns or other trappings of a
church service, but there will be some pauses for more music. You
can use these times to remember Dad, submit a prayer to your deity if
you wish or just enjoy the jazz.
There is a slot in the programme for
anyone who wishes to share a memory or two of Dad to come forward and
tell us what is on their mind. There is no written programme, apart
from the paper I have in my hand. This is not expected to be a long
function. Dad did not want formality and expressly forbade
unnecessary expense.
I hope everyone at least has a copy
of the directions to the cemetery and to the lunch at Mapua Wharf
afterwards.
The only reading I have planned is a
very short excerpt from a gardening book.
Nor have I scheduled any organised
singing, but if anyone has the impulse to carol an unaccompanied
verse or two, please go ahead.
Early
Years
Leslie
Victor Heritage was born on his parents' farm near Chesterton,
Warwickshire on 3 March 1922. The significance of that date is that
the 3rd
of the 3rd
'33 was his 11th
birthday.
His early
childhood was spent in the country, where a strong interest in nature
developed. I remember him teaching me, when I was quite small, how
to stamp hard and frighten a sitting bird so that it would fly out of
the hedge and you could find its nest. He and his younger brother,
Norman, would probably have horrified OSH; cycling without helmets,
climbing trees and playing by the canal.
Young Les
won a scholarship to Warwick School. What he recalled most often
about the school is that it was founded in 914 by Ethelfleda, the
daughter of King Alfred the Great, making it the oldest school in
England that could prove its date of establishment.
He did
well at Warwick academically, particularly in mathematics. He was
not an enthusiastic sportsman. Norman tells that he persuaded the
doctor to write him a note excusing him from games because of flat
feet.
War broke
out just about the time he was due to leave school. He witnessed one
of the early German air raids on the Midlands; on Coventry. This
gave him a desire to get back at the Hun, preferably from the air.
Many
young men were volunteering for the RAF in 1940, but Les surprised
the selection panel by expressly asking not
to be a pilot. With his mathematical ability he was ideally suited
to be a navigator and that was what he became.
Most
people who met him were treated to the story of how he became
re-named “Bill”. On his first day in the RAF he was allocated to
room with two other recruits. One was a Les Peacock. The third
said, “I can't call you both Les. Tell you what, I'll call you
Bill.” And ever afterward he was Bill Heritage.
His
flying training was in Canada. He claimed to be responsible for the
only WWII attack on New York. He was the senior trainee navigator in
a night exercise over Lake Erie. They were supposed to be navigating
by the stars, but got lost and flew too far South. As Bill told it,
they were spotted as unknown aircraft straying into US airspace,
fighters were scrambled at La Guardia Field and the air raid sirens
sounded in New York for the first and last time. It must have been
hushed up because no account of it has been located in local press
records.
By now he
was a firm jazz fan. He planned to use some Christmas leave to go to
New York where the major jazz clubs were. Then a phone call came,
“We're your Canadian relations. Come and spend Christmas with us.”
They proved to be very nice relatives, but he never got to the jazz
clubs.
He must
have been near the top of his class, because he passed out with a
commission as Flight Lieutenant and a posting to Coastal Command.
“But sir, I wanted a bomber.” Bill never did get his bomber or
the chance to repay the Luftwaffe for the Coventry raid. He was
shipped to West Africa and ended up more or less hitch-hiking flights
to India, where he flew for most of the war.
As a
child I was sometimes entertained by his tales of service life, like
the night a hedgehog wandered into the officers' mess and was fed
cherry brandy by a tipsy CO. This wasn't the kind of heroics I
dreamed of in a father and I once asked him if he was ever shot at.
“Yes. The landing approach at Imphal Plain was over the Japanese
lines. But they didn't have any anti-aircraft guns.” And he did
take offensive action at least once. His crew depth charged a whale
they mistook for a Japanese submarine. And if they hurt the whale it
would have been Bill's fault because the navigator also acted as bomb
aimer.
That's
not to say he did not contribute positively to the war effort. He
was a disc jockey on forces radio. I think it was because he owned
the jazz records. A 6ft Sikh sergeant tried to coach him, “Put
more feeling in your voice, Flt Lt Heritage.” Bill would later
complain, “There was this bloody great wog telling me how to speak
my own language.”
The
vagaries of war led to a meeting with Norman, now an RAF sergeant.
Norman confesses that the brothers painted Delhi a bright crimson.
Marriage
and Career
Demob in
1946 led to the start of Bill's career with plants. First it was
with the Forestry Commission in Dorset. During this part of his life
he met Irene Roblou and they were married in 1948.
From
forestry he moved to Stewart's Nursery in Ferndown. In the ensuing
years two sons were born, polythene was invented and Bill was invited
to write Stewart's catalogue. These were all vital components of his
future career:
- Polythene led Bill to experiment with plastics as a means to keep soil waterlogged and grow water plants, especially water lilies;
- Writing the catalogue led to countless magazine articles, many of which he illustrated with his own photographs.
- A chance introduction to Percy Thrower, led on to five or so guest specialist appearances on television gardening shows, dozens of radio broadcasts and lecturing to horticultural societies.
Bill
had always been an avid reader and it just came naturally to write
his first article, "Come on in - the Water's Fine" in 1955,
which was published in the horticultural magazine Amateur
Gardening. The demand
for articles grew.
The BBC
produced a TV gardening programme, hosted by Percy Thrower, from its
studio in Birmingham. It was in black and white, live and no
recording. Bill was first asked to appear in April 1960. I can't
remember which appearance it was when the family was allowed to
accompany him. We had to sit well out of the lights in the studio
and both boys were suitably cognisant of the imperative of silence.
In 1961
or '62 the family moved from Ferndown and Bill joined a specialist
garden centre, Highlands Water Gardens in Rickmansworth.
Growing
into my teens I was delightfully unaware that my father was now
England's leading expert on garden ponds. A narrow field, I grant
you, but it's always nice to be looked up to. I did know that I
could earn money by working with him at weekends.
To me, he
was 'my Dad'. He didn't get overly involved in child rearing, as was
the custom of the day. But he did take me fishing. I remember with
great happiness sitting with my Dad by rivers and canals watching for
a float to bob. A warm, sunny day at Lacock where, as I recall, we
caught nothing and it didn't matter. A bitterly cold, winter day in
Norfolk fishing for pike. Catching perch in a Somerset drainage
canal while we stayed in a pub, which was then a huge treat.
Best of
all was fishing at sea from a boat. This was exciting because it was
unpredictable. Off Teignmouth in a dinghy Dad started hauling in the
anchor. “Why are we moving?”, I asked. “I'm sick as a dog.”
That's when I noticed he had gone a pale green shade. In Ireland we
caught BIG fish; a 30lb tope and Dad battled a huge skate for abut 40
minutes before it broke the line. It was in Ireland, too, that a
fellow fisherman gaped when I said “Dad.” “Sure, I thought you
was fishing buddies.”
Back
in Rickmansworth, Highlands Water Gardens was sold. The new owner
was difficult to work with. When Dad proudly told him he had written
a book about water gardening the instant reaction was, “How much
are getting paid for it?” Lawyers were retained in a bitter
wrangle, but eventually The
Lotus Book of Water Gardening
was published in 1973 and sold over 150,000 copies. It was translated
into French and Dutch.
The
relationship with Highlands Water Gardens did not survive the
argument. He was working at Wildwoods when his second book, Ponds
and Water Gardens, was
published. There has been a second edition and two revised editions
after that.
To
give you a glimpse of Bill's skill with words, today's reading is
from the preface to Ponds
and Water Gardens.
Read
And that,
I think, is enough of my voice for now.
Dad's
second selection is Muggsy Spanier's Ragtime Band playing Relaxin'
at the Touro.
Nigel
Here is
the recording my brother, Nigel, sent from England. After him, you
are all invited to say a few words if you want to.
Play
recording.
Invite
speakers.
Mike Theilmann
Amongst
the many sympathetic words emailed from around the world, the ones I
would like to share with you come from Mike Theilmann. The
Theilmanns are related through the Roblou side of the family, and
have been good friends for a very long time. Mike and his wife,
Maren, now live in Ottawa, Canada.
Read
Thank
you, Mike.
And
now Muggsy Spanier again with Lonesome
Road.
Retirement
Charles
Thomas of Lilypons Water Gardens formed the International Water Lily
Society in 1984. So Bill (always with Irene tagging along) was able
to share his love and enthusiasm in person with others from around
the world, but particularly the USA. Bill and Irene couldn't make it
to the very first IWLS Symposium but after that they were always
there until their last visit to Baltimore in 1998.
Bill
delivered the keynote address at its 1986 symposium.
At the
1988 symposium, IWLS awarded Bill its highest honour. They inducted
him into their Hall of Fame in recognition of his outstanding
contributions advancing water gardening.
Visiting
the USA rather regularly satisfied a special curiosity of Bill's, the
American Civil War. Upon gratifying his water gardening interests in
the area he and Irene were visiting, he then reviewed Civil War
events of the locality.
It
was through an IWLS contact that Bill arranged one of the most
romantic gifts ever. American growers had finally rediscovered how
to breed new kinds of water lily. For my parents' 40th
wedding anniversary, their 'ruby wedding', he arranged for a new
variety of red lily to be named “Irene Heritage”.
My
parents were married for 60 years, all but 10 days. After Mum died
in 2008 I invited Dad to join me in Nelson for a holiday. He liked
it so much he applied for permanent residence.
Nearly
all of the credit for Bill's enjoyment of his final years belongs to
Eve. She had much the lion's share of the work of caring for Bill as
he aged. Thank you, Eve, from the bottom of my heart.
Bill's
legs could not carry him so far and his memory became ever more
unreliable. But in Mapua and then on the farm in Woodstock he was
able to enjoy the Nelson sunshine and the birds and a delightful
view.
In
March this year, shortly after his 91st
birthday, he moved into Woodlands Rest Home so that he could be
provided with round-the-clock professional care. I made sure to take
him for a drive and a coffee every weekend. More often than not, Eve
came too.
Last
Saturday we went to Rabbit Island. Bill stayed in the car while Eve
and I had a walk on the beach. Then we all went for a coffee. He
tackled a large piece of coffee cake with the enthusiasm of a tiger
tucking into its tea-time coolie.
Back at
Woodlands he rejected my first farewell hug as not good enough; we
had to have a real rib-crushing bear-hug. I count myself very
fortunate to have such a positive memory of our last time together.
Dad
could not ignore his favourite musician, so, to play us out, it is
Benny Goodman with Moonglow.
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